I once wondered what was more important in a relationship: love or like. The word “love” is thrown around so much that it has as much value as an American dollar these days. Well, during my interview with Maurice and Diane Knight, I got my answer which also happens to be the glue that has held this couple together for nearly 50 years: they still “like” each other. Their like for each other have helped them to cherish and appreciate each other despite the challenges over the years, which was no easy task.
The Knights have been together nearly all of their lives, literally and figuratively. They met each other at ages 13 and 15, and wedded at 17 and 19. They really didn’t have a “get to know you” period before getting married. I guess that didn’t matter because they will be celebrating 50 years of marriage in November 2009.
Both of them agree that both partners in a relationship have to like each other for it to work. Nowadays, couples tend to grow apart or fall out of love after a few years together. In fact, Mr. Maurice noted that “people are still paying for weddings while they are going through divorces.” That’s how bad divorces have gotten over the years. It is for this reason that Mr. Maurice and Ms. Diane feel that new couples should get married at City Hall like they did to save time, money, and emotions on weddings that may not last an entire year.
Other lessons in marriage that have kept them together include:
· Not going to bed mad at each other. In all of their years together, they have never slept in different rooms.
· Knowing that marriage is the hardest job they’ll ever have. They advised that people should not go into it if they’re not willing to work.
· Understanding each other to make things work.
· Giving and taking. “Sometimes you’re going to take more than you give.”
· Supporting each other in activities even if they do not participate.
· Never fighting about money.
After that meeting, I was convinced that if you genuinely like your mate, you are likely to put in the time and effort to make your relationship work. The words of wisdom shared by the Knights can apply to any one reading As Not Seen on TV, regardless of relationship status.
Note: It was such a pleasure to meet this precious couple that was referred to me by a fellow line dancer. Initially, Mr. Maurice was against the interview, but Ms. Diane worked her magic. What was really great about this meeting was that their two daughters were in attendance, so this was my first “family” interview for As NOT Seen on TV.